Bert’s 3 critical criteria (in order of importance):
#1 - Responsible. That means rational, resourceful, dependable, logical, intelligent, wise, clever, etc.
#2 - ... Then the following in no particular order.
Honest, ethical, sensitive, sensual, compassionate, good morals, ambitious, confident, clean, sense of humor, loyal, kind, etc,
#3 - AND Highly desirable would be... Sexy, shapely, attractive, lusty, provocative, horny, willing, etc.
Therefore, FIRST, I always looked for #3 - Sexy, shapely, attractive, lusty, provocative, horny, willing, etc, and THEN hoped the other attributes #1 & #2 were there too.
Works for me.